They may fake it sometimes but they do catch on. We all do, especially in the right environment, with the right words, the right tone. And repeated OFTEN. Haha.
We all desire to be the type of guest that gets invited back, that leaves feeling refreshed not stressed.
While it's often in the back of our minds, it shouldn't be about having someone think we are great mothers because our children are so well behaved. Right? If they aren't and they really mess up, what does that mean for you? We are back to asking the question of we are good enough. But that question has been asked and answered.
Why? Because the Creator of the universe says so. You need to start believing it.
So, why should we teach our children to behave when a guest in someone's home?
Because it teaches them to honor people and their possessions.
It teaches them that God is a God of order not chaos and we are to live with [relative] order, even in our behavior.
It teaches them self control over their bodies.
It teaches them that Mom is helping them have tools to live and engage with people, setting them up for success.
It teaches them that you are a team and a teams work together to accomplish things.
It gives you, Mom a time of connection with another Mom which is so important. Mother can be a lonely job. Linking arms with other mothers is a gift we need to treasure.
It allows you to enjoy a cup of coffee, perhaps even hot coffee.
So many good things come from teaching those sweet ones how to behave when around people.
When on your way to a friend or family's house, talk with your children about who these people are, how you know them and your care for them, perhaps a little bit of history, always keeping it positive. It can add meaning to the visit and give your children a view of people that can stir compassion, connection, and interest.
Maybe one of your children will ask a friend questions based on what we said in the car. This teaches them to inquire of people and that they don't need to be afraid of talking to adults.